Posts Tagged ‘Gender’

I have a few friends who are pregnant with girls or have been pregnant with girls.  And they have not been thrilled with being pregnant and have had a difficult time with their pregnancies.  Some gained a ton of weight or had edema.  Others suffered severe morning sickness.  Now, I had very little problems with any of the above.  I had nausea and it was annoying but nothing that could not be handled with saltines and ginger ale or ginger tea.  I ended up gaining most of my weight toward the end.  I loved being pregnant but was carrying a boy.  Did my carrying a boy have anything to do with me loving pregnancy?  Does gender influence your view of pregnancy?  I had come up with a theory that perhaps women enjoy pregnancy with boys more because of the hormone balance.  Boys are full of testosterone while girls have estrogen.  A women is going to be overloaded with estrogen with girls and maybe that is why they have difficult pregnancies or less enjoyable pregnancies.  Of course, this is a theory with nothing to back it up, just something I made up.   It is an interesting thought though, isn’t it?

Note: I have known women carrying girls who never complained about their pregnancies also.  I am not making the assumption that all women carrying girls complain.  However, I have not come across many women who  complained when carrying a boy.


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blue bootiespink bootiesI know that not everyone finds out the gender of the baby ahead of time.  I give a lot of credit to those who wait to find out.  Tom and I are driven by our “ids” and need to know right now. 

Today we found out that it is a boy.  Is the first ultrasound like a first opinion?  Do you wait for a second opinion or possibly third?  And I have to wonder if the first opinion could be wrong.  I am holding out hope that the second ultrasound could bring different results. 

Does gender disappointment make me a bad mother-to-be?  I don’t think so but know that others will disagree and think badly of me.  After I found out I was pregnant, I was fully upfront with the fact that if this is a boy that I will be disappointed but would get over it.  I am not one to disappoint and am still getting used to the fact that there will be a Hunter, not Sarah, that we welcome in November 2009.

I took a poll of everyone who thought I was having a girl vs. having a boy.   I have to say that it was pretty evenly matched but figured my women’s intuition would win out.  I guess I was wrong.  For those who said I was having a girl, there was a lot of mention of them not being able to imagine me having a boy.  I wear pink, I love girlie things and am truly a girl’s girl.  I have to agree with all of the above statements.

I figured that I would get my girl first then take a chance with a second for a boy.  I could live with having two girls but never thought that two boys would ever be a possibility.

And for all of you critics out there who are thinking what a horrible person I am.  You must be thinking, Doesn’t everyone just want a healthy baby?  Perhaps but gender disappointment does exist and I am suffering from it.

At the end of the day, I am so excited that the pregnancy has gone so well and the baby is healthy.  Boy or girl, I will love this baby with all that I have.  Goodness knows that this baby is very wanted and was planned out to the extreme.

A wise person once said that no one ever says, “I want the sick girl, not the healthy boy”.  She was right and I will definitely take the healthy boy.

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image_babyIf anyone knows me they know that I am a planner.  I may not be super organized but I like to plan everything.  You can ask Tom or my family if you are in any doubt!  As Tom told me today, “You are in my world” referring to an itinerary that has not shown up yet for our trip.  Registering for baby things is no exception to this rule.  I have been scouring websites for ideas and asking my friends for advice on items.  I think that aside from the items themselves, the store(s) in which you register becomes a big question too.  There are so many stores to choose from.  You have your standard BabiesRUs (surprisingly pricier than other stores with same items), Baby Depot (decent selection but not much of what I would need), Target (surprisingly has a good selection and great prices) and PotteryBarnKids (super expensive and has lots of items that you can get at other stores).  Then you have your Manhattan/NJ stores, BuyBuyBaby, GiggleAlbee Baby, Planet Kids, etc.  It is all so confusing and takes a lot of research.  Well, I have tons of time on my hands and I have done my research and have narrowed it down to 2/3 stores.  Unfortunately, not one store carries every registry item I want.  I am not revealing the registry stores yet as I have not started the registries.  Also, I am waiting to reveal them until I am certain the baby is a girl or boy. 

The other question is about registry items.  I think that I have narrowed down my list of “must-haves” but it is inevitable that I will be running to Buy Buy Baby or some other baby store to pick up something after Baby J arrives.  I am excited to learn along the way as that is how most parents do it and I think is an important part of life.  Haven’t we all stumbled our way through different parts of our lives and learned something as a result?  Alot of us were petrified we would not make any friends when we first got to our college dorms or even kindergarten, yet we found a way and made friends somehow.  I think that this is just another step  that will end up being a life lesson.

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Boy or Girl

I think that every couple will have this debate.  The woman is carrying the baby and yes has the advantage of intuition.  However, the man “chooses” the gender with this sperm.  When Tom and I talk about the baby, I will say things like “she will love going to the park in the spring” while Tom will replace the she with a he.  Now, I don’t know who will win this but at the end of the day, don’t we all just want a healthy baby?  I know that after all that we have endured, a healthy baby is all we could ask for right now.  Oh, and a girl would be a nice gift for me.

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